Divorcing a Narcissist – Part 1
Today I am going to court to ask for a divorce. Everyone around me is happy for me. I should be feeling excited. I should be feeling ready. There are a lot of ‘shoulds.’ But what I actually feel is […]
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A Narcissist’s Impact on Their Child
Many parents will say this and I am no different: I thought I was doing everything I could to try and protect and shield our child from what was happening in our home. Other than leaving. I was too scared […]
Preparing for a Court Hearing
A few years ago, my partner was arrested and convicted of domestic violence. His narcissism and anger issues finally caught up to him and for a moment, he let his mask fall. That moment showed a few people who he […]
Healing My Own Way
During my marriage, the frequency and intensity of the abuse got worse over time. By the third and fourth years, it was almost daily: a day of not speaking followed by a day of berating. There were rare moments of […]
Two Years of the No Contact Rule
After my partner was arrested, I still communicated with him via text. I responded to questions about our child. And I said that I needed space and time. Very quickly I realized he was trying to pull me back in […]
The Hoover Move
When I think of hoover, my first thought is of a vacuum. This makes sense because hoovering is essentially sucking the life, happiness, and soul out of someone. That was my experience anyway. I had never heard of this term. […]
Controlling Behaviors: The Narcissist Rules With An Iron Fist
I don’t believe that one human being should control another human being. Yet it happens every day with supervisors and staff, parents and their children, and governments and communities. In some cases, it feels justified. As parents, we are keeping […]
The Attack of the Words
He said I deserved having a miscarriage – it was my karma. He told me I was a dark cloud that brought back luck to us and everyone close to me. He called me a bitch, a whore, a cunt. […]
Gaslighting: The Great Weapon of a Narcissist
Truth be told, I had never heard the term gaslighting being used as much that often. And then I started hearing it all the time, especially by media outlets. But it still didn’t click that it was happening to me […]
Why Did the Narcissist Choose Me?
I have not had contact with my partner in 18 months. In that time my emotions have gone up, down, and all around. I have had to have some really hard, honest and reflective conversations with myself about how I […]